Living and Loving on the Road!
Welcome to the start of what I hope is an informative and inspirational blog. I noticed in the online RV world that there is little talk about the emotional journey and the unique challenges of living together in a very small space.
I don’t want to separate our RV travel life from my “relationship help” life as they are so intertwined, so I hope you enjoy our external adventures as well as the internal ones.
Like these 2 cranes flying over the Bosque del Apache in New Mexico, Stephen and I have been flying side by side for almost 40 years. We’ve not only been “together” but we’ve worked as a team 7 days a week 24 hours a day for most of that time. Having that much time to butt heads and get clear how to “be” together has given us some expertise on the subject! My hope is that our unique perspective on relationships on the road resonates with couples of all ages.
Our work was on the road. I was a clothing designer and we traveled to art shows all across the country in one RV situation or another. Stephen backed me up and I produced. He drove and basically did the selling once we were set up at an art show. Two people with one job to accomplish.
Needless to say, lots of “working it out” (my words for arguing) took place over these years. Our best conversations about how to get along are had while looking out at the road together. Do you remember the movie with Doris Day and Rock Hudson called “Pillow Talk”? I’m of course dating myself, but it came out in 1959. I loved the image of a couple lying in bed and sharing their thoughts. So, we call these conversations “road talk”.
On this blog, I hope to capture some of our road talks as they are happening via video to share. Yes, we are still working it out and yes some of our best conversations still happen as we go down the road. We’ve noticed that the very position of talking while not looking directly at each other adds a special dimension of speaking from our hearts. I’m reminded of something Stephen used to do in the early years of our relating. When we were being the most adversarial, he would set us both down in front of a mirror and we would talk to each other as we looked back at ourselves as a couple. Sometimes tricks like this can have a softening effect until our hearts catch up!
We hope that our candor can contribute to your enjoyment of the lifestyle we share with you – life on the road! The work of achieving harmony in our relationship feeds our RV life in a way nothing else can. If the love is flowing between us, we face all the daily challenges that RVing presents with much more equanimity.
Here are a couple features of this blog that you will see in the future:
- As we travel around, I’m interviewing couples who’ve been full timing for many years. During our conversations, I’ll be looking for the key ingredients that created harmony for them while living in a home on wheels.
- “Tell Britt” will give you an opportunity to describe specific situations that are recurring in your RV life that I can respond to.
Hope you enjoy the blog and please let me know of any ways you’ve learned how to make this lifestyle work, as was well as any help these posts might be to you.