Opening Message – Welcome to my Blog

“flying” side by side

Living and Loving on the Road!

Welcome to the start of what I hope is an informative and inspirational blog.  I noticed in the online RV world that there is an elephant in the room.  No one is addressing the unique challenges of living together in a very small space.  I don’t want to separate our RV travel life from my “relationship help” life as they are so intertwined, so I hope you enjoy our external adventures as well as the internal ones.

Like these 2 cranes flying over the Bosque del Apache in New Mexico, Stephen and I have been flying side by side for almost 40 years. We’ve not only been “together” but we’ve worked as a team 7 days a week 24 hours a day for most of that time.  Having that much time to butt heads and get clear how to “be” together has given us some expertise on the subject!  My hope is that our unique perspective on relationships on the road resonates with couples of all ages.

Our work was on the road.  I was a clothing designer and we traveled to art shows all across the country in one RV situation or another. Stephen backed me up and I produced. He drove and basically did the selling once we were set up at an art show. Two people with one job to accomplish.

Needless to say, lots of “working it out” (my words for arguing) took place over these years. Our best conversations about how to get along are had while looking out at the road together. Do you remember the movie with Doris Day and Rock Hudson called “Pillow Talk”? I’m of course dating myself, but it came out in 1959. I loved the image of a couple lying in bed and sharing their thoughts. So, we call these conversations “road talk”.

On this blog, I hope to capture some of our road talks as they are happening via video to share. Yes, we are still working it out and yes some of our best conversations still happen as we go down the road. We’ve noticed that the very position of talking while not looking directly at each other adds a special dimension of speaking from our hearts. I’m reminded of something Stephen used to do in the early years of our relating. When we were being the most adversarial, he would set us both down in front of a mirror and we would talk to each other as we looked back at ourselves as a couple. Sometimes tricks like this can have a softening effect until our hearts catch up!

We hope that our candor can contribute to your enjoyment of the lifestyle we share with you – life on the road! The work of achieving harmony in our relationship feeds our RV life in a way nothing else can. If the love is flowing between us, we face all the daily challenges that RVing presents with much more equanimity.

Here are a couple features of this blog that you will see in the future:

  • As we travel around, I’m interviewing couples who’ve been full timing for many years. During our conversations, I’ll be looking for the key ingredients that created harmony for them while living in a home on wheels.
  • “Tell Britt” will give you an opportunity to describe specific situations that are recurring in your RV life that I can respond to.

Hope you enjoy the blog and please let me know of any ways you’ve learned how to make this lifestyle work, as was well as any help these posts might be to you.

17 thoughts on “Opening Message – Welcome to my Blog

  1. Congrats on a theme that’s probably overdue. What is blissful to wifey and me (40 years, 2 fulltiming) is unfathomable to many. Looking forward to your journey and your (well-written) commentary.

    • So sorry to take so long to get back to you. I’m happy the conversation resonates with you and that you are enjoying the many fruits of an intimate relationship – especially in the challenging atmosphere of an RV! I just signed up to follow your blog as well. Happy trails to you and your wife! Britt

  2. Nice project ! How do you do auditory entertainment during long drive periods? Read to aloud to the driver? Listen to CDs or audiobooks? talk? who decides the mix? You might want to cover this in a future blog or just re-comment.
    Also, I have an issue with drowsy while driving? Does Stephen ?

    • Hi Jon – Thanks for the idea! I forgot that Carol reads to you while you are driving. My throat hurts after a while but I think it’s a great way to share the experience together. We sometimes listen to books but mostly we listen to music or simply drive along in silence which is my favorite if the road is smooth and were not listening to everything in the coach do a jig. When Stephen gets sleepy we just simply stop and nap. Since we only drive about 250 miles a day it isn’t much of a stretch. Also, he has taught me to drive the coach so I will be sharing the drive time on our big trip. I love driving it as long as there is no wind. That’s scary since the coach is like a huge sail.

  3. My husband of 53 years died suddenly a few years ago and I am very thankful early on we decided to “sign up and go, life is uncertain”. He said that to someone just the night before he died. How that translates into life is to go, do, see and enjoy as much as you can along the way. Over the years we would have a conversation with someone about a place we had both been and when we asked if they had done this or that they would respond “we didn’t have time, we will go back and do that”. Well, folks, the reality is that you may not get to go back While you are in a city or wonderful place do everything you possibly can. You spent the money and time to get there, get your money’s worth and thoroughly do your homework about what you really want to see and do and then do it and stay a day or two longer if necessary. You may even have to go out of your way to do something like the Corn Palace in South Dakota. What a cool place. One day you will have some wonderful memories as I have. How sad it would be for me to not have them.

  4. I like your idea for this blog. My husband and I started our road life in a 8×8 truck sleeper. We traveled the country for 5 years in that tiny sleeper with only one major blow up. Now that’s a challenge. We are currently in a Class C traveling the deep south. Please feel free to follow our blog for the good the bad and the ugly of managing this life. I’ll be interested in what you have to offer that we haven’t thought about. We all need help and reassurance time and again. Safe travels.

  5. My husband and I are working out logistics to RV full-time. I think this bog will be very helpful. Thank you!

    • I hope you get to join the RV lifestyle soon. It’s not for everybody but if it is a good fit you will wake up every day filled with gratitude!

  6. I look forward to reading each of your blogs throughout the following days. Britt and Stephen came into our lives as part of their nomadic journey. We live in a small town in Waterford, Digby County, Nova Scotia and are enjoying off grid life here and plan to travel in boondocking style for the winter months. Britt and Stephen are the real deal and their passion for life and self discovery is immediately evident. We hope to see them in our travels again someday soon.

  7. It was such a pleasure meeting the two of you and I sincerely hope that my experience helps other women continue on with their lives after the loss – through divorce or death – of their partners. I wish you blue skies and happy trails and can’t wait to meet back up with the two of you!

  8. It was such a pleasure meeting both of you, ye travelers of like-mind! I hope that my video will help women who lose their partners on the road – whether through divorce or death. I also hope that our paths continue to cross as we journey across this beautiful country. We – the fortunate residents of the road.

  9. We are not fulltimers, but travel for 3-4 months intervals. After eight years ofRVing, we’ve concluded that the small issues of contention on our road trips (in a 19′ Class B 2007 Roadtrek) are the exact same ones we go on about when home (in oiurmuch bigget stationary house in MA). Conclusion: It’s not the size of your RV, or that you’re living in an RV. It’s the “prickly” parts of any relationship!

    • Thank you for sharing your experience. For me, full time travel together has put our relationship under a microscope and allowed me to clearly see how well we partner in a 24/7 situation. I love this time to focus on us and how we can do better in our relationship to each other.

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