Well we finally hit a bump in our RV Life that was the most difficult one to put behind us. But what can you do when it is only the two of you out in the big wide world coping with challenges and overcoming them as a team?
I’ll just lay it out here. First of all, I was driving the toad from one place to the other and Stephen was driving the coach. He arrived at Walmart before me and proceeded to back into a light post in the parking lot! What was Stephen doing backing up when he couldn’t see what he was backing into!!?!! I’ve noticed him making assumptions about backing up without thoroughly checking out what was behind him. He could see in the backup camera which shows what is directly behind you, but he hit the light post on the corner by the ladder where he had no visibility.
I was so frustrated that he decided to back up without either me looking for him or getting out and seeing the lay of the land KNOWING there were blind spots.
Getting over being SO angry at the stupidity of it took a while. I couldn’t even talk for a few hours. What could I say that would not have been demeaning and blaming because those were the sentiments that were very definitely going on in my head.
“Well timed silence hath more eloquence than speech.” Martin Farquhar Tupper
While stewing in my juices, I just sat with those feelings. I know Stephen was backing up to make sure we were level so we could get a good nights sleep. I’d been having terrible nights when the bed was leaning one way or the other. He was trying to please me which made it even harder to stay mad at him!
Pretty soon I realized yes, he made a mistake. A STUPID mistake. Have I ever made a stupid mistake? Yup. So, gradually I let the anger go. What else could I do? The greatest thing to me about being an RVing couple is knowing how much you need each other. You need each other for companionship as well as the daily teamwork that RVing involves.
How Harmony Happens as we pursue RV Life
Furthermore, I’d promised myself that this would be a post about Harmony. Actually, even the beginning of this post is indirectly about it because harmony is always the goal. Being imperfect humans, we fall and get back up, fall and get back up. I acknowledged what I felt, felt it for a while, then came back to calm. Pretty much works every time.
The day after this mishap we were spending a couple of days at Spry Harbor Campground. We were in need of some down time, and it was peaceful and restful. The RV Life is challenging! So, as a result, we took advantage of our nearness to the Taylor Head Provincial Park Beach and enjoyed a walk on the deserted ocean front.
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There is no one with whom I would rather have shared that time. Because we are both artists, we are very attuned to seeing the beauty and pointing out what we are seeing and experiencing with each other so that we may share the moment.
It’s times like these when I remind myself of all the qualities Stephen has that make our life together so amazing. Why, you might ask, am I sharing such personal information? Read here to learn the answer to that question.
Being in harmony with your partner is also an indication of being in harmony with your innermost self. Here is an excerpt from a blog that tells the harmony story in a most perceptive way.
“From my own experiences I know that a relationship is literally like a fairytale, you have the good forces and the bad ones combined into one single story. Often the dark forces get stronger and stronger and just before they are about to succeed, they get defeated by the power of love.”
How does the power of love show itself when you hit the rough patches?
I’m currently working on a new Youtube channel I’m calling RV Stories people and places. I have videos I’m in the process of editing of stories I’m documenting while living the RV Life. I am interviewing locals and other RVers and learning about their lives. I’ll let you know when this Youtube channel is active. We’ll also share what we learn as we visit interesting museums.
I’m having a hard time expressing how much we love Nova Scotia and it’s people. Here’s a map of our recent explorations.