Full-time RV Living Creates Disharmony!
Stephen recently said to me, after looking back at my blog posts, “you’re always writing about our disagreements.” Heck yeah! When you are full-time RV living a lot is going on.
I want my partner and me to reveal ourselves so that we can tune-up. That’s the way to harmony. I’m curious. Do you fight? Do you allow disharmony to bring you and your partner together?
We must tell the truth to each other to find each other. Full-time RV living is an excellent opportunity to not settle for the status quo of your relationship. Here you are, the two of you, having the adventure of your life with very little distracting you from the emotional intimacy achieved by encountering each other. Is the relationship you have the one that you desire?
Roughly half of all marriages fail altogether, and of those marriages left standing, how many are fulfilling?
How many great relationships do you see around you?
I have never understood why fighting/friction in an intimate relationship is considered a bad thing. When we were raising children, I remember them getting very uncomfortable when we would be openly working out our differences. We were never disrespectful or mean, but we did handle whatever came up at the time. We were always willing to go through the disharmony to get back to harmony. I remember thinking when the children were small that we were modeling good relationship skills. That’s not quite the way they remember things!
Chaos is, quite frankly, the natural order of things.
I’m not good at pretending everything is okay. I want to search for that place of authenticity when the connection breaks. Many people will turn themselves into a pretzel of people pleasing behaviors to maintain a semblance of harmony. Because we have such a strong need for harmony, this is understandable. But, there is another way.
Recently I noticed how the numerous decision-making points that come up with life on the road were beginning to exhaust me. Furthermore, I realized that our life pattern of Stephen deferring to my preferences was a burden I wanted to put down. In this video, we discover a new way to be on this issue.
Full-time RV Living – disharmony to harmony https://www.youtube.com/edit?o=U&video_id=4eJRUxi4v_4
Couples get stuck in disharmony and tolerate a low-grade intimacy – afraid to recognize the state of their relationship. They cover up their feelings so things “look good” on the outside. Relationships are living, breathing things that are supposed to evolve and grow. How do we do this except to engage with each other?
The universe is in constant battle with the forces of harmony and disharmony. I explored another aspect of this force in a post called Resetting your Relationship. Go here to read more.
So now, in conclusion, we arrive at the crux of the matter. The tension between these two forces is where creativity is born. Something new comes out of our willingness to engage. Read more here.
In addition, as I describe this experience of being uncomfortable and letting harmony organically happen through the process, I realize this is the same process I use as an artist! Think about it. Harmony interacting with disharmony is there in all our music and the visual arts. Ah, the great cacophony of life! I’d love to hear how you are changing your relationship with you partner now that you are Full-time RVers.
Our Journey Continues
This is how far we’ve come since July 6. Unfortunately, we already feel fall in the air here in Canada so we’ve stepped up our pace through the small towns and forests leading to more driving days. We expect to be in Nova Scotia by the middle of August and stay about a month. LOVE Canada! To be continued…