Camping is a playful act. Remember camping out in the backyard for a moment. Isn’t that the feeling we’re trying to recapture when we choose full time RVing?
My last post was about having a sense of humor. How is that different than playfulness? Playful people, in my opinion, go beyond seeing the funny part of life, they actively create opportunities to have fun!
We got in our coach yesterday, ready to drive the leg from Denver to Colorado Springs, and the coach wouldn’t start! Our first major breakdown in this over 6,000 mile odyssey. What to do? Fortunately, we had electricity where we were, so we called mobile repair. Unfortunately, there was no water spigot, and we ran out of water. Choice point. Feel inconvenienced and annoyed, or, create a sense of playfulness.
Playfulness and creativity are very close cousins. Whenever an activity calls on your creativity, you are playful. How to use the toilet? How do I make my coffee? Pretty soon I’m in a whole new mindset, and I’m back to being a little girl playing “house.” Did you play this game with your friends? I found my sense of humor about the situation. Then I started to think, what else could I do to have even more fun? Could I get out my paints and take advantage of this downtime? You get the idea.
“We don’t stop playing because we grow old,
we grow old because we stop playing.” George Bernard Shaw
An essential definition of being playful is not taking things too seriously in life.
Digging even further, I looked at synonyms for playful. Here is just a handful. Energetic, lively, spirited, spunky, vivacious, lighthearted.
And here’s some antonyms of playful. Grave, grim, serious, solemn.
Some people are just naturally playful. Stephen will break out into silly faces or dance at the drop of a hat. He has lots of fun with word plays too. He amazes me at how much fun he’s having in life! I need a sense of safety and relaxation, and then my playfulness reveals itself. With Stephen, my trust is high. I’m confident I won’t be humiliated in some way by opening myself up and being playful.
RVing has helped me build this trust because at the same time as we’re having new experiences together, we’re becoming better partners in life. That spells trust which leads to playfulness. Few things breed intimacy as much as playfulness.
So consider yourself fortunate. You’ve chosen to live in a way that naturally enhances your sense of play. Were you ever in a marital rut? When we repeat daily routines, over and over, we lose our sense of wonder, excitement, and joy. Did that happen to you?
I bet wonder, excitement, and joy are all qualities you wanted to introduce into your life when you adopted full time rving. This lifestyle is made to order for bringing them back into your relationship. A change of scenery, sleeping in, exploring a new place, these things change you. And, they change your conversations with each other. Your life is fresher, livelier. Read more here.
Yes, we are experiencing some adversity right now. As I said before in my post How’s Your Sense of Humor, stuff happens. I know I want to be a more playful person. So, when a stressful situation presents itself now, I ask, “How can I make this more fun? Sometimes it even works!
The only reason to pursue this state of fun is to feel more alive. And isn’t that why we all chose to go full time RVing? What fun can you have today? Go make some funny faces in the mirror and see what happens. What do you and your partner do when you play? I’d really like to know.
Since Niagara Falls (which was amazing), I celebrated my birthday by photographing grafitti in Detroit. Then we had to get a part replaced in Elkhart, Indiana. Then, it was a quick run to Denver to see one grandson. Now sitting in Colorado Springs to enjoy another grandsons football game. It’s the last one we will see before he goes off to play at a college next year. Can’t wait to see him play.