This week’s post is from one of my readers. I met Susie Dory last year when we were their guest in Nova Scotia Canada through Boondockers Welcome. I enjoyed the encounter and, as often happens with RVers, we have kept the relationship going through social media. In this article, Susie share the value of feeling grounded as a nomad. She shares a visualization process that can bring clarity to what you will need for your comfort and “groundedness” while on the road. Of course, any clarity we have with ourselves automatically lends clarity to our relationship.
“This is our first year traveling through the winter in our RV. Both my partner and I have traveled a lot throughout the years, and being in unfamiliar places, we find most often, an exciting adventure.
When we were first planning our road trip, we knew we wanted to boondock as much as possible, as we do not like the feel of the overcrowded campgrounds. We are Boondocker’s Welcome members as well as Harvest Hosts and have used them extensively, but traveling for four months, we could not rely simply on the goodwill of these hosts for one or two nights at a time.
My partner is easy go lucky and is very happy to find a spot “on the fly.” I learned very quickly that I need to feel grounded. (When one is grounded, they are “in the flow” and “connected.” Personal strength, adaptability, and emotional stability all come from a state of groundedness. You can read more about groundedness here.)
This led me to think, “I bet other people find themselves in a similar quandary.” You know what happens when you plug something in a circuit that is not grounded; it will short out, or worse catch on fire.
Trust me; you do not want either of you “catching on fire” while you are on the road!
For me to feel grounded, I need to know where I’m going to park. I need to know what amenities I will have. I need to know how close I am to a shopping district. I need to know that I am safe where we are parked.
I think it’s important for each of us to discover what we need to make us feel grounded. We can avoid a lot of anxiety and stress if we can express our feelings upfront.
What are you willing to compromise on? Do you need amenities and if so, how often? Are you willing to boondock and for how long and what type of boondocking? Are you willing to have limited water, or do you need to shower every day? Before you set out on your adventures, do yourself and your road partner a huge favor and do a self-discovery exercise. Take the time to assess each and every aspect of your time on the road.
As a Life Coach, I teach people to visualize themselves in their new environment.
What does it look like? Are you traveling in a motorhome, a 5th wheel, a camper style van?
Who is driving? Are you both taking turns?
What are you feeling? Are you stressed? Are you happy? Excited?
What are you seeing? Are you going to museums or hiking on trails? Maybe both? Are you near the water? Are you swimming, boating?
Where are you spending your days? Are you in the city? County? Farmland? A mix?
What are you and your partner saying to one another? Are you enjoying each other’s companionship? Are you struggling in your relationship on the road?
Try this visioning exercise and write down your thoughts.
Ask your partner to do the same. See if you are on the same page or if there will need to be some compromise. Do it before you hit the road. Do it again while you are on the road. Keep doing the exercise until you can find your ground and most importantly, your common ground.”
I love Susie’s idea of utilizing a self-discovery visualization before you find yourself “short-circuited.” It is basically a very considerate thing to do for your partner. Knowing yourself is necessary before attempting to communicate your needs in a calm manner. I personally am happiest when it’s all a big mystery. I guess I’m a nomad in every sense of the word. My sense of groundedness comes from my relationship. Stephen is my home. I’ve always said life for me is a giant game of clue! What have you discovered about yourself and what you need to feel grounded?
We have had a very event filled time since we left home in January. We attended an Xcaper rally and boondocked in Yuma AZ with a couple hundred other RVers outside Yuma AZ for a week. Then, we took off for California and visited and became members of an SKP park in Temecula, California. This will be our RV home when we are able to sell our current property. After that we had a meet up with Stephens new daughter that he found through Ancestry DNA and finally, we are here in Federicksburg, TX for a week participating in an RV Entrepreneur Summit. Love this life!